In the previous post, I lit a match under your old paradigms of pleasure and watched them burn away in defiant bliss. And what we found in the rubble is this: You are a sensual being. Your body is a temple. Your desires are divine. And this series is your permission slip to own it all, unapologetically. 

★ If you’re new to the series, here’s part 1.

Demystifying Sacred Sensuality

Sacred Sensuality is a vibe, a feeling, a way of living our lives in tribute to the divine mother (feminine). We relish in her delights, our senses, our relationships, our triumphs, and our failures. We don’t shy away from life when it shows up. We live it. It's a blend of mindfulness, embodiment, and unapologetic pleasure-seeking that fuels intuition and creativity.

In its rawest form, sacred sensuality is the art of reclaiming pleasure as a pathway to power. It's tuning into our desires, and dancing with the divine energy that flows through every cell of our being.

Think of it like this: Mainstream culture often reduces pleasure to a fleeting sensation, a quick hit of dopamine before we move on to the next distraction. Sacred sensuality, on the other hand, is about savoring the full spectrum of your experience - the subtle nuances of taste, the smell of a lover's skin, the way sunlight stretches across the room. It's about tuning into the subtle energy that underpins every sensation and letting it guide you toward a deeper connection to yourself, to others, and to the world around you.

So, if you're ready to ditch the ordinary and crank up the pleasure dial, let's dive into the principles of sacred sensuality.

★ Sacred Sensuality — The Core Principles ★

Principle 1: Honoring the Senses

Your body is a fucking orchestra of pleasure and it’s waiting for you to conduct it. Honoring the senses means tuning in to the full spectrum of your experience – the sound of your teeth puncturing the flesh of a juicy, ripe fruit. The way your lips pucker as you accommodate and suck in it’s juices. The recognition and delight you feel as its flavors dance across your tongue.  It's about savoring every delicious detail, letting yourself get lost in the moment, and allowing your body to guide you towards what feels good.

Why it matters:

When you honor your senses, you're not just experiencing life, you're devouring it. You're opening yourself up to new levels of pleasure, deepening your connection to the present moment, and tapping into an infinite source of creativity and joy.

The Sensual Scavenger Hunt 

This week, I dare you to embark on a sensual scavenger hunt. Each day, focus on one sense:

Sight: Seek out beauty in unexpected places. Look at your food when you eat it.

Sound: Listen to the world around you. Close your eyes.

Touch: Explore different textures. Eat with your hands.

Taste: Savor each bite of your food.

Smell: Inhale deeply. Notice the scents that surround you. 

By the end of the week, you'll be surprised at how much more alive you feel.

Principle 2: Presence & Mindfulness

Your life isn't a mindless scroll through social media, it's a multi-sensory feast. Presence is your golden ticket to tasting every. fucking. bite.  

In a world that's constantly bombarding us with drama and distractions, being present can feel like a foreign concept. Presence is about ditching distractions, silencing the mental chatter, and showing up in the here and now.

Why it matters:

Presence amplifies pleasure. It pushes out the noise of “what ifs” and “what should” and grounds us into the full sensory experience of right now. How you feel right now? What you think right now? What’s important right now? What’s the next most viable step?  When we push away the illusion of a guaranteed future and the issues of the past, we allow our intuitive forces to show up and guide us toward our passions instead of anxiety and fear.

Grounding Exercise:

Stand barefoot on the earth (or your floor), close your eyes, and feel the connection between your feet and the ground. Breathe deeply and imagine roots growing down from your feet, anchoring you to the earth.

Principle 3: Embodiment

Your body is a fucking temple. Fill it with shrines of romance and love.

Embodiment is about diving headfirst into the delicious experience of being in your skin. It's about feeling the curve of your hips, the strength of your thighs, the softness of your belly. It's about reveling in the way your body moves, breathes, and desires.

Why it matters:

When you fall in love with (or at the very least respect) your body, you’ll feel safe enough to inhabit it. And with it, you tap into a deep well of power, wisdom, and pleasure. You reject the bullshit beauty standards that tell you how you should look and instead embrace your body as a unique expression of your divine essence. You cultivate a 

deeper connection to your intuition, your creativity, and your sensual self.

Self-Massage:

Light some candles, put on some sensual music, and give yourself a luxurious massage. Use your favorite oil or lotion and explore the contours of your body with loving touch. Pay attention to the sensations you feel and allow yourself to fully relax.

Recommended Read: The Art of Self-Massage

Principle 4: Permission & Self-Sovereignty

You are not here to apologize for your pleasure. You are not here to shrink yourself or dim your light to make others comfortable. You are a sovereign being, a motherfuckin’ goddess in your own right, and you have full permission to revel in your desires, set boundaries and make choices that honor your body, mind, and spirit. 

Why it matters:

When you give yourself permission to fully experience your life and pleasure, you're not just indulging – you're reclaiming your birthright. You're honoring your needs, your desires, and your spirit’s wisdom. You're cultivating a deeper sense of self-respect, self-love, and autonomy.

Boundary Setting:

Identify the people, places, and situations that drain your energy or make you feel uncomfortable. Practice saying "no" to these things, and prioritize spending time with people and in environments that uplift, empower and hold you accountable.

✨ Need an ally in your boundary-setting journey? My Boundary Breakthrough Workbook is your sassy sidekick, ready to help you reclaim your power and pleasure. Snag it here. 

Self-Advocacy:

Speak up for your needs and desires, whether it's in the bedroom or at work. Don't be afraid to ask (or be afraid and ask anyway) for what you want, and don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.

Principle 5: Curiosity & Playfulness

Pleasure isn't a destination, it's an adventure. Curiosity and playfulness are your trusty sidekicks on your sensual journey. It's about approaching your sensual self with a wide-eyed wonder, a willingness to experiment, and a heart full of mischief. It's about giving yourself permission to be silly, to get messy, to try new things and embracing the unexpected with an open mind and a healthy dose of “fuck it”.

Why it matters:

When you cultivate curiosity and playfulness,  you unlock a whole new world of pleasure. You discover hidden desires, explore new sensations, and keep the spark alive in your relationship with yourself. You also create a space for joy, spontaneity, and laughter – all essential ingredients for a life well-lived.

Sensual Exploration Box:

Fill a box with items that spark your curiosity – feathers, silk scarves, massage oils, flavored lube, sexy lingerie, whatever floats your boat. Set aside time to explore the contents of the box, letting your imagination run wild.

The "Yes" Game:

For a week, challenge yourself to say "yes" to every opportunity for pleasure that comes your way (within reason, of course). This could mean saying yes to a spontaneous invite, a bubble bath, or a flirty text exchange. 

Role Play:

Tap into your inner vixen or playful seductress. Create a character and let yourself embody their desires and fantasies. This can be a fun way to explore new aspects of your sexuality and spice things up in the bedroom.

Principle 6: Self-Pleasure

Self-pleasure is not a consolation prize. It's not something you do when you don't have a partner or when you're feeling lonely. Self-pleasure is an act of self-love, a sacred ritual of connection, and a form of self-healing. It's about exploring your body on your own terms, discovering what turns you on, and giving yourself the pleasure you crave and deserve.

Why it matters:

When you prioritize self-pleasure, you're not just getting off – you're getting to know yourself on a deeper level. You're learning what makes you cum, what ignites your senses, and what satisfies you. This knowledge is invaluable, both in and out of the bedroom. It boosts your confidence, enhances your self-worth, and empowers you to communicate your needs and desires to others.

Schedule It In:

Block off time in your calendar for self-pleasure, just like you would any other important appointment. This sends a powerful message to yourself and the universe that your pleasure is a priority.

Create a Sacred Space:

Light candles, put on some sensual music, and create a space that feels inviting and safe.  This will help you relax, let go of inhibitions, and fully immerse yourself in the experience. 

Experiment:

Don't be afraid to try new things. Tease out the experience. Explore different toys, techniques, and positions. (hint: in front of the mirror) Pay attention to what feels good and what doesn't. The goal is to discover your unique pleasure blueprint and give yourself the most satisfying experience possible.

Conjuring the Sacred Energy —  Invocation + Meditation

The energy that is invoked through sacred sensuality is complex. It’s an earthy, grounded, almost feline-like energy. It feels like a calm arousal. Your senses are peaked and alert but the body glides along languid and unbothered. It’s a feeling that’s unmistakable when felt. 

The easiest way to conjure this energy is through activating arousal. No happy endings. Go through your process. What activities make you feel sexy? What foods evoke pleasure? What scents? What sights? What sounds stimulate those dopamine and oxytocin releases in your brain and body? Immerse yourself in those experiences until you feel the urge to up the ante through sex or self-pleasure. But don't. 

Once you find it, I want you to sit with it. Breathe into it. Pull the excess energy up from your sacral (where it lives) with a slow inhale up to your crown. And on the exhale visualize that energy coming out of the top of your head (like a “Y”) and falling down the sides of your body, reentering at the soles of your feet and pulling it back up with the inhale. Cycle it until your body starts to vibrate. Then visualize the energy flowing into your sacral chakra for safekeeping. 

I’ll tell you what to do with that energy in our next post. 

In the meantime, take 1-2 or the concepts and experiment with them. Remember, this journey is about pleasure, not pressure so take these principles make them your own.

See ya in the next post!